How to Ask a Girl Out Over Text & Get a Yes

Common Mistakes Guys Make When Asking a Girl Out Over Text

Asking a girl out over text can be just as sweet and romantic as doing it in person, but it must be perfect.

That’s why we created a list to help you know what to avoid while texting the girl you like:

• Being too vague: Don’t end up confusing her by meaning to sound confident and in control. Be clear and specific about what you want. Tell her where and when you want to go out. Don’t leave her guessing about your intentions.

• Coming on too strong: Don’t rush it. Let it follow a gradual build-up and pattern. Don’t ask her out after knowing her for a few hours or a few days. Get to know the person and then casually suggest a date without making her feel rushed or pressured.

• Being too casual and laid back: While you don’t want to sound too serious, you also don’t want to sound too casual or make her feel like you don’t want any date. Girls like to feel like the center of your world. Make her feel special and wanted.
  
• Using cheesy pick-up lines: It might be best to steer clear of pick-up lines and clichès that sound cheesy and drab, especially if humor isn’t your usual fortè. Keep it genuine!

• Texting at the wrong time: Try to familiarise yourself with her schedule. Don’t just drop a message online, and leave it to chance. Get a conversation going before you let her know of your intentions.

• Overloading the message: Be cool and easygoing. Don’t start off with long declarations of love and unnecessary promises (that can be a bit scary). Keep it sweet and simple.

• Poor grammar or excessive slang usage: One of the biggest turn-offs for most girls is overusing dating slang, or grammatical errors (you don’t wanna come off as an illiterate or a drop-out).

• Sounding too passive or nervous: Ensure that you sound confident and assertive. You definitely don’t want to sound like a nervous kindergarten pupil on his first day at school.

• Not accepting rejection: Don’t be the guy who gets angry or guilt trips when a girl tells him no. Be respectful, take it like a boss, and leave with your dignity. Women like men who are confident.

How to Ask a Girl Out Without Getting Rejected 

There’s a tested and proven way to get a yes from the girl you’re presently head over heels in love with. Here are some time-tested tips that increase your chances of getting a date:

1. Get to know her: Have real, friendly conversations with her. Find out who she is, and what she likes. Girls are more likely to say yes to guys they’re already friends with.
2. Check the vibe between you two: Read her signals and respond. Be sure that she’s at least interested in getting to know you before asking her out.
3. Be confident and direct: Girls are attracted to confident guys so be vocal about liking her. But don’t sound nervous or desperate. Try not to sound pushy either. 
4. Make it sound friendly: Avoid approaching her as though you’re giving a business presentation or, even worse, proposing marriage.
5. Have a clear plan for the date: Clear and fun date plan makes it easier to say yes. It also shows you’re serious about her and you respect her time.
6. Use a playful or flirty approach: Don’t be too serious about it, be fun.
7. Accept no as graciously as possible: “No” is not the response anyone wants to hear from their crush. It might not be the right time for her, or whatever the reasons may be. Be respectful and keep things cool. This helps to keep your options open.
8. Know when to back down and move on: A no from one girl isn’t the end of you and if a girl tells you no over and over, she’s probably not into it. Keep your self-confidence intact by stepping aside after a while. 

Cute Ways to Ask A Girl Out Over Text 

There are three major approaches to asking a girl out over text:

1. The cute boy-next-door approach
2. The flirty but charming approach 
3. The funny and playful approach
4. The Cute way
5. The Funny way
6. The Flirty way

Here are three examples of each of these approaches:

The cute boy-next-door approach:

• “I was trying to think of a clever way to ask you out, but honestly, I just really want to spend time with you. Dinner this Friday?”
• “Remember how you said you’d never turn down ice cream? Let’s test that theory—ice cream date this Saturday?
• “Would you like to go on a date with me? ✅ Yes ❌ No 🧐 Maybe”

The flirty but charming approach:

• “So, when are we making all the other couples jealous with our perfect first date?”
• “I usually don’t let just anyone take me out, but I’ll make an exception for you. How’s Friday?”
• “I was going to ask you to dinner, but I’m worried the food will get jealous of how much I’ll be staring at you.”

The funny and playful approach:

• “Breaking news! The universe has aligned, and a perfect date opportunity is available this weekend. Will you claim it?”
• “Please confirm your RSVP for an exclusive event: A date with me. Dress code: Cute but comfy. Vibes: Immaculate. Attendance: Mandatory.”
• “In a world where great dates are rare… one girl and one guy defy the odds. Will she say yes? Find out this weekend!”

The Cute way:

• “If I promise not to embarrass myself, would you agree to hang out with me this weekend?”
• “There’s a coffee shop down the street that I’ve been meaning to try, and I’d love nothing more than to grab a cup with this really pretty girl I’m texting. Please say yes!”
• “We’ve been texting for a bit and I’ve been meaning to say some really interesting things to you in person. Care to grab a drink with me sometime this weekend?”

The Funny way:

• “I’m not sure why I did this, but I just ordered fries that could possibly feed a family of five. Care to come join me?”
• “We should definitely host a show together. Let’s catch up in person and plan it over dinner Friday night?”
• “I’m not the best at hiking, but I’ll go hiking any day if it means I get to spend time with you. What do you say?”

The Flirty way: 

• “I can’t stop thinking about you. Please let me see you this weekend. Will you say yes?”
• “I could give you a cheesy pickup line, but I’d rather be straightforward and say that I want nothing more than to spend time with you. Please allow me to take you out on a date this weekend.”
• “Hey! Guess what? I just read somewhere on the internet that going out with me has been proven to increase happiness and peace. Wanna test that out?”

For more text ideas, use these rizz lines to charm like a pro.

How to Ask a Girl Out on a Dating App 

When you meet a girl you vibe with on a dating app, it’s best to not linger too long before asking her out.

If she’s on a dating app, it’s probably because she wants a date, so shoot your shot before other guys do it for you. 

Here are a few ideas on how to ask a girl out on a dating app:

• “I’ve really enjoyed chatting with you. Want to take this conversation offline and grab coffee this weekend?”

• “We could keep talking here, or we could meet up and see if we’re just as fun in person. What do you think?”

• You seem cool, but I need proof. Let’s grab a drink and see if you’re as fun in real life!”

• “We’ve exchanged enough messages to confirm we’re not bots. I’d love to celebrate with a date!”

• “Serious question: Do you prefer coffee dates or cocktail dates? Let me know so I can plan accordingly!”

How Do You Know a Girl Wants You to Ask Her Out

Your crush might respond to your texts but how do you know she sees you the way you see her? 

Check out these tips below to know when she wants you to ask her out:

1. She responds to you and responds fast: Girls know who they want and they’re quick to respond to you if they like you. If she’s indulging your conversations and texting you just as fast as you text her, that’s a huge pointer.
2. She initiates conversations: Something as simple as her being the first to text tells you where a girl’s heart is concerning you. If she doesn’t wait for you to take the lead on the conversation and she’s constantly reaching out, she’s definitely enjoying talking with you. 
3. She asks you a lot of questions: Whether personal or basic, if she’s constantly asking questions about you, it means she’s curious about you and wants to get to know you. 
4. She compliments you: Not just the generic “You’re nice” but more like “Your voice is so smooth. I just love the way you talk.” She could be hinting something more.
5. She talks about going out: If she suggests trying a new place or mentions not having anyone to go out with, it could mean she’s subtly indicating, “When are you going to ask me out?”
6. She jokes about being with you: 9 out of 10 times, those light-hearted comments of “I can’t believe you’re single” or “I bet you’ll make a cute partner” aren’t all jokes and banter. She wants you!

Red Flags or Signs That Indicate She Isn’t Interested in Meeting You

• Delayed responses: She can go hours, even days before responding to your texts. There’s no need to push it. She just might not be that into you. 
• She doesn’t ask to know anything about you: It’s only normal to ask questions when you’re curious about someone. If she’s not trying to get to know you, there’s a high chance she doesn’t want to meet you. 
• One-worded replies: If she responds to your long or normal texts with words like “ok”, “yeah” or “nice”, she’s probably not interested in keeping the conversation going.

How to Ask Her to Be Your Girlfriend Over Text

When you’ve gone out on several dates with your dream girl, you might wanna step it up a notch by asking her to be your girlfriend officially. 

If you guys talk more over text, it’s best to do it that way. Here are a few ways to go about it: 

1. Be clear and direct about what you want: Don’t beat about the bush. Women find that a bit immature.
2. Add a personal touch: Don’t just send a cliché message. Put your back into it. Highlight details that are synonymous with the experiences you both have had with each other. 
3. Match her vibe: Text her according to her personality, whether she is confident, flirty, or easygoing.
4. Pick the right time: It’s tricky figuring out the perfect moment to pop such an important question. Check her schedule and do it at a time when you know she’s free and relaxed.
5. Keep it short and sweet: Don’t use too many words.
6. Be confident but not pushy: Don’t try to force her to give a response immediately. Don’t put pressure on her.
7. Follow up in person: No matter how she responds, try to discuss it in person afterward.

Here are some examples of simple texts you can use to make it official:

• “I think we have something really special, and I’d love for us to take the next step. Will you be my girlfriend?”

• “From the moment we started talking, I knew there was something different about you. I don’t want to just ‘talk’ anymore—I want to be yours. Will you be my girlfriend?”

• “I love the way we laugh, the way we connect, and how amazing you are. I’d love to make this official—will you be mine?”

• “I could wait for the perfect moment to ask, but honestly, every moment with you feels perfect. (Her name), please be my girlfriend”

• “I don’t just like you—I really, really like you. Let’s stop pretending we’re ‘just talking’ and make this official!”

How to Ask a Girl Out (Long Distance Relationship)

People have their silent doubts about long-distance dates. But if she’s all you’ve ever wanted in a woman, fly across a continent if you have to! Long-distance dates sometimes are even more exciting.

Getting a girl to agree to meeting with you despite knowing you two live far apart takes skill and precision. You have to know what to say and when to say it. 

Here are important pointers to note when asking a girl out on a long distance date:

1. Make It Special & Thoughtful. Take an approach that would stand out in her mind.
2. Consider Virtual or Future Dates. Use a video calling app or plan to meet up sometime soon.
3. Be Clear About Your Intentions. Make sure she knows that you like her and want to be in a relationship with her.
4. Use Humor & Playfulness. Be fun, or at least light-hearted. Help her enjoy herself.
5. Suggest a Specific Time & Activity. Take the initiative on what you guys should do.

How to Handle Rejection 

Not every shot is a winner, you must remember that and maintain a good attitude no matter what. It might hurt your pride or bruise your ego but it is what it is. Don’t disgrace yourself by begging or trying to make her feel bad by messing up her reputation.

The key to handling rejection is maintaining your confidence, grace, and self-respect. Here are a few things you should do:

• Stay cool & composed. Don’t take it personally or react out of turn.

• Respond with class. Don’t get bitter or try to guilt trip her. Let her know that you understand and respect her decision.

• Don’t beg or push. You’re not a toddler. That’ll only make things awkward for you both.

• Keep Your Confidence. Remember that a negative response doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. Someone else will appreciate your worth. 

• Give yourself space if needed. If you really like her, take some time to process your emotions so you can still talk to her without being weird or awkward.

• Learn and move forward. Focus on improving yourself for yourself, not to prove anything to anyone.

• Keep an abundance mindset. Remember that there will be more women, there will be more dates, and real soon, you’ll find your person.

Final Thoughts

No matter who you are or what your situation is, if you want to know how to ask a girl out, these tips can serve as your guide to help you successfully get a date with your dream girl. 

Whether she’s an old friend or a new crush, using the pointers and ideas from this article will guarantee that you sound confident.

Don’t forget; be clear, be confident, be cool, and remember that rejection isn’t the end of the world. You can always get a second chance or a better option.

Also, make sure to check out these great date ideas.

Good luck!