How to Make Your Wife Happy: Simple & Effective Ways

How to Make Your Wife Happy Everyday 

• Compliment her: This works especially when she gets dressed up. Even on regular days, a woman always wants to feel good about her physical appearance. Don’t wait until you’re on bad terms to do this because she can tell if it’s insincere. So from time to time, take a good look at the woman you married and say something nice about her looks.
• Spend time together: From my experience, married people (especially of the working class) can become busy, too busy to even talk. But a popular saying goes, “You create time for the things that matter.” Whether it’s at night after work, or on weekends, be intentional about involving her in your weekly, and possibly daily routine. Let her know she is priority.
• Be affectionate: I learnt the hard way that a woman is more in tune with her emotions and, therefore, is more in need of affection. As her husband, you are her primary source of affection. Make her feel valued in the way you speak to her, touch her, and even look at her. Trust me; it matters. Hold her hands. Smile at her even when there’s nothing to smile about. Caress her and be sure to show affection. 
• Surprise her: Do something spontaneous. It could be something as little as bringing lunch to her office or as grand as a romantic getaway to her favourite city. Be creative and sensitive to her preferences. And make sure no one accidentally tells her!
• Listen attentively: This is a course I failed woefully in the first five years of my marriage. I had no idea she needed my ears at all times. As long as she’s speaking to you, focus on her and pay attention. Maintain eye contact and listen actively. Also, try to refrain from commenting until she’s done speaking. Especially if she’s upset.
• Hug her every day: “What? Everyday?” Yes, sir. Every single day. Especially right before leaving for work. Physical contact of any type is a surefire way to show affection.
• Help with chores: This is especially important when she’s pregnant or generally tired. Help her do the dishes, do laundry, take out the trash, or get groceries. That reduces her stress and, in turn, makes her happier.
• Show your love to her: Especially verbally. Don’t let “I love you” become a cliche in your marriage. Say it often and mean it when you say it. You can also show love by putting in the effort to learn what love means to her so you can express it in her love language.
• Support her dreams: Let her know she’s not trapped in the marriage. Encourage her to make power moves and show up when she does. After some years of enduring the strain in communication with my wife, I began to realize that I had ignored her desire to pursue her Msc degree, and instead heaped responsibilities on her. To fix that, I discussed it with her and we ultimately decided to enroll the kids in extracurricular activities so she could take her classes. We were all at her graduation. That cured the strain for sure!
• Apologize sincerely: Usually, men have two extremes when it comes to apologies; some of us do it perfunctorily (without thinking), while others choose not to do it at all. Issues with your wife will NOT blow over, they will just fester and cause deeper harm. So, why not avoid that emotional rollercoaster? If you realize you’ve offended your wife or she tells you she’s offended, find out what you did wrong and offer a sincere apology. Make sure to do it quickly.
• Show appreciation: If she does anything for you, say thank you. Even if it’s something you’ve gotten used to receiving from her. Let her know you can see what she does for you and that you’re grateful.
• Be there when she needs you: My wife lost her mother recently, and she was heartbroken. I took a leave from work just to be around for her and be there for her in person. Not necessarily to speak to her or touch her, but just so she’d know I was there. Your wife may not have experienced a loss, but maybe she’s sick or just mentally tired. Know that your presence is enough to lift her spirits, and actively give it.
• Cook for her: Breakfast in bed, movies, and snacks are a strategy for relaxation and joy in marriage. Even if you can’t cook, order her favourite meal from her favourite restaurant; it has the same effect on a woman who loves you.
• Get her Flowers: Scents generally. Find out what kind of scents she likes. Get her flowers, perfumes, or scented candles.
• Be patient: Don’t be quick to react when issues come up. Avoid jumping to conclusions where she’s concerned. Instead, gather all facts and be objective in your judgment. Choose not to speak rather than to speak harshly.
• Engage in her interests: Learn about the things that she likes and do them with her regularly. For example, my wife likes to read books. Because of this, we started a book club in my home. If she likes to travel, shop, or swim, do those things together to create special bonding experiences and precious memories.
• Talk about your feelings honestly: Communication is the bedrock of relationships (especially marriages). I also mentioned earlier that women are the more emotional ones. It however builds a connection like no other when your wife can hear you honestly communicate your heart to her. 
• Give her a massage: After long days, help her remove the tensions and knots with a quick massage. It communicates that you are concerned for her well being and want to relieve her stress as well.
• Keep her happy: Your wife is most happy when you are affectionate, considerate of her feelings, and practically involved in her life as a person and a partner.
• Date night: Don’t allow dating to end after the wedding. Schedule regular date nights to keep things exciting. 
• Small gestures: Open the door for her, let her walk ahead of you in narrow spaces, text her random emojis, etc. Acts of chivalry should come naturally to you with your wife, no matter what mood you’re in.
• Sweet things: Randomly ask her out to lunch/dinner, whisper in her ear, or give her a gift when there’s no occasion. Even after 25 years of marriage, these serve to fan the flames in my marriage.
• Love language: Your wife understands love best in a certain language. Whether it’s gift giving, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch or quality time, it’s up to you to figure it out. Most importantly, begin expressing it.
• Body language: Make eye contact from across a crowd, gently guide her with a hand on the waist, and hold her hand while walking on the street. It says more than words most times.

How to Make Your Unhappy Wife Happy Again

Has it been years since your wife has been genuinely happy in your marriage? Just months or weeks or days? Here are a few guidelines on what to do;

1. Have a conversation with her: The first step to solving any problem is to diagnose the problem. Schedule a time to sit down and find out what’s on her mind. Setting out to start creating grand gestures may seem unprovoked, especially if you begin solving the wrong problem.
2. Map out the right solution: Now that you know the problem, tailor a solution to specifically fit the two of you. If it’s a time problem, revise your schedules. If it’s a spark problem, plan a romantic getaway with no distractions and begin actively relearning each other’s love languages.
3. Give her space if necessary: Sometimes, she may need a little time away from you. It is natural to feel that way, especially if there’s been a period of tension between the both of you.
4. Seek help from professionals: This may become necessary when it’s a communication problem or a more serious issue. Getting professional help can foster proper communication, resolve misunderstandings, and put issues in perspective for both of you.

How to Make Your Wife Happy When She is Angry

If something has upset your wife, throwing a regular “sorry” in her face may not be the best approach. Once, my wife got so angry because of something I had done, and I said “sorry” almost as a reflex. Big mistake. 

When your wife is angry, she may be the type to rant or the type to become oddly quiet. In both cases, it’s best not to respond immediately but to exercise patience and give her some space. Afterward, you can address the issue when you’re both calm to avoid an angry exchange of words that may result.

Make sure to always resolve issues in private. Patiently listen and avoid gaslighting or making assumptions. Avoid comparisons and proffer solutions. Sometimes, just sit and actually listen to her. Understand why she’s hurt and how you can make things better. Apologize sincerely if you’re wrong, and begin implementing the tips above.

What Makes a Wife Happy in a Relationship

What makes a wife happy in a relationship is constant companionship, trust and honesty, verbal and practical expressions of love, patience, sensitivity to her emotions, and exciting experiences that bring about lasting memories. These are all ways to keep your life partner happy.

“How exactly can I tell if she’s happy?” Signs that your wife is happy include:

• Open and honest communication.
• Eagerness to spend time together
• Shows support and gives encouragement
• Consistent care and affection
• Feels free to express her true self with you.

How to Keep “The Spark” Alive in Your Marriage 

1. Be very verbal about your gratitude for her. Say things like, “There is no one else I’d rather have by my side through all this,” or “Thank you for agreeing to be mine”. Make physical contact regularly and intentionally. Be creative in expressing your love and personalize it for her.
2. Make sure you are speaking her love language, not yours. 
3. Have deep, heartfelt conversations with her.

How to Calm Tensions During Arguments with My Wife

To calm your wife during arguments, keep in mind who you’re talking to. This is the woman you married. This may be hard to do. Believe me, I know. But it is necessary to prevent unnecessary issues.

Secondly, try to remain objective and listen to her side. Don’t pass the blame, and never bring up previously resolved conflicts. This is why conflicts should be examined thoroughly to avoid future misunderstandings.

How To Rebuild Trust After A Fight

Broken trust in a relationship is often an effect of broken communication and in admission of wrongdoing. So to fix that, do these:

• Admit your part in what went wrong.
• Begin slowly and calmly communicating your feelings.
• Make commitments to change and be intentional about fulfilling them.
• Be sensitive to her feelings and give her time if she needs it. Trust is built or rebuilt over time.
• Seek professional help if needed.

Why Patience is Essential in Resolving Conflicts

No matter who your wife is, if trust has been broken, you need to be patient with her for as long as she needs. As long as you are both on the same page about rebuilding trust, she will come around. 

In the meantime, fulfill your commitments and do things for her that don’t require physical touch and have no ulterior motives.

Patience will help her put things in perspective and help you devise the wisest strategy with which to handle the situation. 

How to Handle Disagreements Without Hurting Each Other

When emotions are heightened, it’s easy to get lost and begin to strike blindly, aiming for the jugular. If it’s your spouse, you need to wait a minute. Make sure your emotions are under control when resolving misunderstandings and be open to learning afresh. 

Some tips to avoid hurting each other:

• Do everything to remain calm. Deep breaths help.
• Address the problem directly.
• Create boundaries for conflict resolutions (No-name calling, no yelling etc)
• Be willing to make compromises for your partner.
• Focus on solving the problem in a way that suits you both.
• After resolutions, reassure your partner of your care for him/her.
• Don’t try to address issues when stressed or angry.

How To Support My Wife During Stressful Times

Let her know you have her back without being imposing. Follow up your words with full actions. Let her know you really have her back by being there for her and taking initiative. Prioritize her needs at that moment.

How To Be Her Best Friend and Partner in Crime

One of the things that really helps with this is humour. Developing inside jokes that only the two of you understand can help you be your wife’s best friend. Listen to her when she talks about things she doesn’t like. Do things together to form a strong bond.

How Marriage Counselling Can Help Build A Stronger Marriage

Professionals in the field of psychology on the issue of marriage can be very helpful to resolve conflicts among young and old couples alike. 

They give you an objective perspective to work with, help you devise strategies for conflict resolution, personalize solutions to suit you and your partner and create a safe space to express and address emotions.

Final Thoughts

These simple and practical tips can help you at whatever stage of marriage you are at, only if you follow them. The most important thing is consistent love and care to keep your wife happy. 

Be intentional about understanding your wife’s love language and expressing love to her on those terms.

That way you build a strong and healthy marriage. A beautiful marriage.